We are half way through the year and summer has appeared. There is something so refreshing about the blue skies above us and our park adventures after school and on weekends together. The kids seem really grown up all the sudden too. I keep looking at them thinking time is really flying by. B is somehow almost done with his very first year of school and MM will follow him come next September. As my very last year with a little one at home during the day, I am planning and making the most of our time together. I can’t imagine what it is going to be like when the house is quiet, when there is no lunches to be made and no classes to taxi my little to and from. I know it is going to come faster than I want or think.
I have been really impressed with how much the kids still stick together thick as thieves especially when there is a big group of kids together. I know on the play ground or at a party they will always have each other’s back when needed. But lately I have noticed a slight shift in B’s friends wanting or actually not wanting his little sister to tag along with them. A few birthday parties where he asks me why his friends don’t like him bringing his little sister with him? I really feel for him. He doesn’t understand because he wants her there to play and run around with. Some don’t have siblings so I am sure it’s foreign to them to have a sibling be your friend too. There are many tears from MM when her brother’s friends tell her she can’t play with them and I find I am constantly in the middle of it all. At first, B would just grab her hand and pull her around with his friends but now I can see he looks back at her but doesn’t move unless I tell him to.
The one thing that upsets me is I can remember vividly how I felt when my own brother’s friends didn’t want me tagging along either. I remember how crushed I was that my big brother stopped standing up for me and asking me to always be there with him too. So I am heart broken for MM when this happens. It’s a horrible feeling. It didn’t mean my brother wasn’t there for me in a protective way because he always was and I think B still is for MM. But when he is with his school friends there is a small divide all the sudden. I am hoping this goes away next year when she starts and his friends see that she is a student and not a baby anymore. It’s one of those thing you don’t know if you should jump in or not. Somedays I do make him come back and play with her and other days I distract her and let him have his time with his friends.
I just wish his friends understood how close they are at home. I wish they weren’t trying to change that relationship between them. I hope it doesn’t change them. We go for walks in the park and I listen to the stories they tell each other, the adventures they share and the fun things they get up to together. I get a little emotional thinking that his friends just doesn’t understand all that.
Together sat on a park bench enjoying a special ice cream celebration a few weeks ago they were full of smiles and laughter. It made me so proud to be their mother and also so grateful for my family. Life throws us curve balls sometimes but the way they look at each other and instantly fall into fits of giggles is something I will never get tired of witnessing.
TOGETHER THEY ARE LOVING:
Sunny days and swimming at David Lloyd Gym.
Ice cream surprises in the park on a special day.
Making what to watch list together on their Netflix accounts. (#StreamTeam).
Building lego figurings and playing make believe.
School is almost out and we can’t wait for our trip to America. I am ready for some down home country life living with family around us and the kids outside in the pool everyday. It’s going to be a good one I can feel it. A place the kids can make memories with each other and their cousins as much as I can recharge my batteries and spend time with family.