What age do you really become a grown up? I am thirty-one years old now and I still feel in limbo about it. As a teenager you think turning twenty-one makes you all grown up, you can legally drink, make your own decisions, drive a car, and in some countries that could even be younger at eighteen. Although I never felt that way then or now.
At first in college, living on my own, paying bills, working full-time and school full-time I felt like someone playing dress up. I still worried about making friends and being social. Yes, I had responsibilities but nothing I felt too serious about.
Then I got married. For sure, getting married should be the ultimate grown up thing to do right? I was madly in love and had just moved across the world to be my new husband. And yet I still didn’t feel like a grown up. I was on a life adventure, seeing the world and falling in love. My life had bills, work and love but there was still never a feeling of being a grown up yet.
Buba and Missy Moo came along a few years later. Then I turned thirty just after having Missy Moo. The combination of babies and age felt very grown up. Thirty used to sound so old when I was a kid and I had a master list of things I wanted to accomplish by time I was thirty (many I have done and many I have not done, yet). When babies come into your life there are more “grown up” things to think about. Among them was life insurance, family savings, schools, and the overall health & wellbeing of each child. I was shoved into a bubble of feeling very grown up. When anyone becomes a parent I am sure they feel the same way. Lately, I have been in thinking more of our future and planning ahead which was something I never did before. My life adventures, up until now, have been full of the here and now but with a family to care for planning for the future is just as important as the here and now.
My ignorance of knowledge can get the best of me at times. I know that I need to secure a future for my beautiful family and myself but sometimes I don’t always know how to go about that. I think sometimes we think that all that is for grown ups and we are not quite there yet in our 20’s and 30’s but we are! I think family savings are so important. If you are unsure about investments, there are companies like Nutmeg that make it simple to manage savings online for you. You are in charge of your level of risk you want to take and how much you want to put in. Best part you can leave the scheme at anytime with no hidden fees. It can help people make the most of their savings in a way traditional ISAs might not. These are just the sort of things that make me feel grown up now. Taking life more seriously in my thirties and planning for the future as a family together. If you feel the same way too, check this video out it could help you on your path to being a grown up too.
It’s almost like I became grown up overnight in some aspects with more financial pressures and responsibilities, and yet there are still some days that I feel like I am not quite there yet. Do we ever feel completely grown up? I still want to run to my Mother when I have had a tough time. I still want to be lazy on a Sunday afternoon, eating pizza and watching bad tv. I still want to go on all the rides and be a big kid when we go to water parks. There is still so much of me that feels like a big kid. At thirty-one years old, you would think I would have the answers by now but I don’t feel like I do. I told myself at ten that twenty would feel grown up. I told myself at twenty that thirty would feel grown up. Now maybe it’s definitely forty years old. Does everyone else feel this way too? Or will I always think another ten years I will be wiser and feel more grown up but never get there?
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