I think everyone is guilty of having a vision of what parenting will be like once we have kids. Since we have no experience of what lies ahead, we have these out of this world expectations set for when the baby arrives. In a world that puts so much pressure on parents, each and everyday, it can be twice as hard if you set the bar extremely high for yourselves and feel like a failure when reality sinks in and it’s unreachable. I have learned right from the moment I made a birth plan and it all went out the window that my expectations that everything will run exactly how I want it to, was completely wrong.
Now, as a parent of a 3 and 5 year old, I have seen over the years just how many of my parenting views, goals, and visions were parenting fantasies. The things I thought I would never do, I did. The things I thought that would never happen to me, happened. The things I thought my own children would never do, they did. Parenting isn’t something you can plan, make perfect or run smoothly on a regular basis. We can strive for a certain way of family life but in reality things can go a different direction very quickly without warning.
Here are ten parenting fantasies v.s. realities that I have to admit, I am guilty of all of them.
- FANTASY: My kids eating fresh, organic, home cooked, no sugar food v.s.
REALITY: My kids eating chicken nuggets and french fries with ketchup.
- FANTASY: Spending hours creating crafts, playing make-believe, and coloring or drawing v.s.
REALITY: Letting them watch another episode of kids youtube.
- FANTASY: Having a clean house, clean outfit on your child, and dressed and ready yourself v.s. REALITY: Toys everywhere, child’s outfit stained with weetabix from breakfast, jam from lunch and ketchup from dinner and that trendy lounge wear with a top knot for your daily fashion style.
- FANTASY: Wanting to have a child that is cultured, into sports and experienced swimmers v.s.
REALITY: How much does it cost for one class?
- FANTASY: Thinking you will give Pinterest perfect parties, dinners, and craft projects v.s.
REALITY: A bunch of Pinterest fails that you share on social media for a laugh but crying inside that it really wasn’t as easy as it looks while attending to your child.
- FANTASY: Planning on being calm, patient and getting down to your child’s level to explain things v.s.
REALITY: Shouting after calmly telling your child to stop doing what they are doing for the fifteen time.
- FANTASY: Everyone cuddling in the bed having a lie in on the weekend v.s.
REALITY: Mommy and Daddy taking turns getting up on the weekends before the sun comes up with the kids.
- FANTASY: Making useless rules like no eating in the car that you know you will break v.s.
REALITY: Breaking out a pack of crumbly crackers to keep them quiet in a traffic jam.
- FANTASY: During nap-time you will sit and enjoy a hot coffee or maybe nap too v.s.
REALITY: During nap-time you run around doing chores and heating up your morning coffee for the tenth time and forgetting it in the microwave only to find it come dinner time.
- FANTASY: You will never sound like your parents v.s.
REALITY: You will sound exactly like your parents.
FANTASY: Your kids will stand arm in arm and smile right at the camera v.s. REALITY: They will make silly faces and funny noises while jumping all around.
Parenting is the greatest journey you can ever experience and I wouldn’t trade it in for all the world. I love being a parent even when things get a little challenging. No matter how much you read or try to prepare for what kind of parent you will become, you will never truly know until you become one. Just know, follow your own gut and instincts because every parent is different and every child is different. Best of all it’s always a learning experience with each child.
Even after having my first child, I planned and prepared for my second baby’s arrival knowing most of those plans would go out the window or go a different direction. You think I would learn but the second child can be completely different experience than the first which is the best part about having each child. They are their own person and come along with their own ways, and challenges.
I think as long as we keep our children happy and healthy and not put added pressure on ourselves as parents, parenting is a beautiful life experience.
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