October has already been a tough one and we are only half way through it. I never lie here on Let’s Talk Mommy, normally the kids are the best of friends and super easy to handle together. In the first week of October, something stirred in the oceans or changed with the moon because my sweet, shy daughter became someone I didn’t recognize. That’s for another post but it has made the relationship between my two little pea pods strained. I have one child acting out and another upset that the other is acting out and not being his best friend. It is hard to parent two children differently but they are different so it’s a must. It’s been hard to explain to B why his sister is laying on the floor acting like she is dying and screaming at the top of her lungs when she has always been super quiet and super sweet. The other day, while I was wiping my own tears away, he asked me what I did to her and he wanted his old sister back. I hugged him and cried harder. That’s parenting for you, one day you feel like you are getting this all down easily like supermom and the next one you feel like utter failure and helpless.
So October for us has started out bleak and shocking and in a non-Halloween spooky kind of way. Let’s hope it only ends in the latter with trick-or-treat and not go to your room. The kids are so excited for Halloween this year and I think I am too. The older they get the more they get into costumes and halloween parties and decorating around the house. It’s so fun even if I am the biggest wuss in the world. I won’t even begin to talk about what’s going on in the U.S.A. and clowns right now…completely terrifies me! While I thought the days of matching and coordinating their costumes were over we went yesterday to pick out costumes and they actually picked out a matching set without me even hinting at it. So I guess their best friend status is still intact as long as MM stays vertical.
While MM is struggling with new emotions and how to deal with them as much as I am, there still has been amazing moments between these two this month. We found a new park area to roam around, scoot around and explore. The kids absolutely loved it the other day. MM was having a good day which is what we refer to it as now, sadly. So her and her brother were two peas in a pod and lucky for me I had a quick chance to snap up a few of them being silly, laughing and hugging together. I still can’t believe we were in shorts just a week ago and now I have pulled out the winter coats and scarves. Silly Autumn weather.
It’s amazing how much they have both changes from last month’s siblings. MM has shot right up in height and catching up with her big brother. He can barely stand behind her and see over her without tippy-toeing. I always thought B would be the tall one and MM the small one not because they are girl and boy but that’s just the way the boys are in my family at 6 foot plus and the girls are barely 5 foot like me. Only time will tell but they are looking more and more like each other everyday even if they don’t act like each other. MM still looks up to her big brother for so much support and guidance when they are out playing at the park or at a friend’s party.
For some reason, this month, my two kiddos keep wearing the same clothes. I quickly started noticing it on my instagram at first that whenever we were out doing something or snapping up a few fun captures they were wearing the same outfits. I realized that it’s a little bad parenting when you don’t realize your children are hanging back up the clothes they wore that day and re-wearing them a million times over. Funny they didn’t start to stinky. EEEK! I clearly have been so busy this has gone on far too long. Do your kids have a favorite outfit they always want to wear? I had to stop sharing a few of my favorite photos of them because they are constantly in this dress for MM and between this sweater or B’s grey sweater in every shot this week. Made me laugh once I realized what was going on though. I knew I had done less washing this past week. hahaha So maybe not bad parenting after all just smart parenting and saving time.
TOGETHER THEY ARE LOVING:
A new park area we found recently.
Scooting races on their new scooters.
Lego challenges. (all about friendly competition here now).
Being silly together and saying silly things they shouldn’t.
Crumpets. (never liked them now that is all they want to eat).