When you become a parent so many things change physically, mentally and emotionally. I can’t say how it is to become a father but motherhood is hard work. It is true the benefits far out weigh the challenges and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
There are days when you have the best interactions, conversations, and simple ordinary memorable moments with your child. Those are the days you want to cherish forever, hold in your memory as they grow up so fast and it will happen less and less. In motherhood, these are the best days and you wish and hope for them each day. The love you feel when your child giggles or runs to you open armed, shouting, “Momm–y” is blissful. Or a proud moment that they have accomplished something as little as writing the letter, “A” on a piece of paper. There are so many joys, happiness, and happy tears shed along the way.
There is another side to motherhood. The ones we all never want to experience but unfortunately many, and most have or will in their child’s lifetime. A hospital visit. In a blink of an eye (no pun intended) your experiencing a blissful game of yogurt clapping at the table and the next you are shaking like a leaf, holding your child in a rush to the emergency room. These are the challenges. You no longer can be afraid of blood. You no longer are a person allowed to cry or show emotion for fear to scare your little one who is in pain and scared. You have to suck it up as a mother. You have to be the strong one and pretend it’s only a scratch or that the nurses are the happy people that help Doc McStuffins out in her clinic. These are the times emotion over takes you inside and you think the very worse has happened when in reality it will all be ok in the end. You can’t see that far ahead when you are empathizing with your child. You feel their pain and their every cry. It’s a slow torture to see them in pain.
What amazes me so much about becoming a parent is how much you would do for them to protect them from every bump, scrape, and pain. That they are in fact the strong ones holding you together. After a long night in the emergency room with Missy Moo who had cut her eye open on the tv unit, I realized this. She is stronger than me. She is the tough one. She was consoling me with her smiles and cuddles while we waited for the doctors. Even though I knew it wasn’t life threatening I knew she was in pain, so I was in pain with her. I wanted her to know it would all be ok, but she did that all on her own. After medicine long had kicked in, she was up flirting with the other patients waiting to be seen and running around laughing while her eye continued to bleed. I sat there amazed at how strong kids are, how easily they adapt to a situation and how as parents we do the quite opposite. We worry. Will it scar? How will I keep it clean? We go into overdrive and analyzing the situation. How to prevent it happening again? The endless questions in our head before we even see the doctor who will quickly reassure you it’s fine, she is fine, it will be fine.
This is motherhood. There is so many experiences to be had as a parent. Motherhood has definitely changed me. While I was full of emotions over a little incident with my youngest this weekend it got me thinking about how powerful our love is for our children and quickly things can go from a beautiful day playing together to an accident. In motherhood you never know what is coming your way, and you can never be prepared for it all. Those are the challenges in an otherwise amazing adventure as a parent.
Missy Moo is doing fine and back to her normal playful self, glued eye and all. The smiles are back and her running around to my new found game of chase and make sure she doesn’t reopen her eye cut. She is loving the extra attention while I sit on pins and needles hoping it heals quickly before her older brother wrestles with her next. That’s life. There will be bumps along the way we have had our fare share with Buba already so you would think I could handle it. Every incident is a new experience with the same child or not.
This is motherhood.
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