Letters to Him & Her ~ #31

Last updated on March 4th, 2024 at 08:28 pm

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HIM

B, you are a school boy now. We are now deep into school drop offs and pick ups. At first, school was a breeze for us. You never batted an eye at starting it and spending all day there with your new friends. The first week you came home bouncing with excitement and even the first weekend you were so upset when you found out you don’t go every day. Those things are all still the case but my worse fears of starting school are slowing creeping in. You have been sick and bad tummy for the past two weeks. Between your Daddy, the teachers your principal and I, we are trying to locate the problem. It’s not a bug as it’s going on far too long. You have so many food allergies we are having to watch you closely when you eat and see if it’s something new your are allergic to. I am trying to be discreet always having to talk to your teacher, principal and the lunch lady for you. I don’t want the other kids picking up that you are different or need extra care. You are starting to mention kids not wanting to play with you. I have more fear than ever that you aren’t having the amazing experience you pretend to be having when I ask. I hope that you do really love it and the rest will sort itself out soon. I have noticed a huge difference in your personality and attitude towards things around you since you started school. Your emotions are running wild whether it’s happy or sad they seem so much more extreme. I wonder if school is tougher on you than I thought. Maybe it’s not a breeze and with you only just cutting your nap out, I think you are struggling more than ever and I hate that. I hope we get to the bottom of this so I can have my healthy, happy, sweet boy back. Daddy and I are ever so worried about you. 

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HER

MM, my little bike rider. This week you have been full of a cold. Your first proper cold with that pesky runny nose that I am so glad you rarely get. You haven’t been yourself really since B started school and you started nursery. It’s been a tough week for all of us this week but you are still the strong one of the family, holding us together like glue. You still laugh, smile and giggle your way through a bad day. I love that about you. We had family photos this weekend and you tried your best with a slight fever and a nose that was sore you somehow still made a great effort (more than the photographer but that’s another story). You have been doing so great on your bike rides to the park after school with B. I think it’s amazing that you always strive to beat him in a race. I can see your competitiveness starting already like your Momma. We are so excited because we found you a new nursery this week, closer to home. Your first trial day went amazing and you already have a friend you know in the class which makes it easier. I am so excited that we can walk there together and its just going to be better for us all, I can feel it. You start next week and I have my fingers crossed that you will be happier and more settled in this new nursery. 

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73 thoughts on “Letters to Him & Her ~ #31”

  1. Ahh I really hope you get to the bottom of whatever is causing B to be ill and that he makes some amazing friends at school. It’s so hard and nerve wracking to let them out into the big wide world of school as it is. I want to give you both a huge hug. Z loves school but we got the first little incident the other day when a boy double the size of him hurt him with a headlock, it was done in a friendly way but it’s the first time we’ve seen him upset about things outside of our control. Well done to MM on her bike riding skills, clever girl πŸ™‚

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    • Me too, it’s been such a hard week. Emotional, stressful all around. I have no idea where to look or how to fix it all at the moment. Feeling a little lost. Oh no I am so sorry to hear about Z that’s awful. It’s going to be like this now they are in school isn’t it? I am so worried about bullying. MM is flourishing though and growing up way too fast all the sudden. Seems to happen that way doesn’t it?

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    • Me too it’s been so hard knowing what I should do. Feel lost at the moment. They really are looking more grown up every day. It’s crazy how fast it’s going, soon it will be MM in school too. Eeek empty nest.

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  2. Oh no, I hope you find out what the issue is with B very soon. Must be unpleasant for all of you. Let’s hope he can get back to enjoying school very soon.

    *sending hugs*

    #LivingArrows

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  3. Oh poor B, that’s tough, and tough for you too. There’s definitely a new set of germs at school, we had Kitty and Elma down with a tummy bug before Kitty had even managed her second week and by the notes in the school newsletter I doubt she was the only one. I did gather from little miss today that one of her friends who isn’t big on eating is sharing around her packed lunch each day (that my little eats everything just adds in on top of her school cooked meal) so maybe that’s all it is for B, it’s just something that doesn’t like him. And in the mean time lots and lots of hugs for you xxx

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    • Yeah I am so worried about sharing food as he has deadly allergies and seems to be getting sicker each week than fine on weekends. I hope MM loves her new nursery and we can finally find some normality soon. Thanks hun.

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  4. Oh poor B! It’s so hard when they first start, that whole part of their life that’s away from you and having no control over it. It’s still early days though, I’m sure he’s still adjusting and getting used to the routine. I really hope you find out what’s making him poorly, poor lad. Yours sound so like mine – a sweet and sensitive boy and a feisty little sister! x

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    • I hope he adjusts quickly and we can focus on actual school. This was my worse fears coming true too. So it’s got me all emotional. He still loves it though so that helps.

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  5. Awww honey I’m so sorry B is struggling, I do hope you figure out the food problem. Awww MM is so cute. She’s really growing up now. x x #livingarrows

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  6. Fingers crossed the new nursery works out better for MM.

    Starting school’s so hard for them. Hopefully B links up with a couple of other kids and things start getting back to that first week again. Might just be that school tiredness is kicking in after a couple of weeks, and it takes time to get over. I know there’s children at N’s who’ve not done full time at nursery previously, and struggling with the hours.

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  7. Oh poor little man, starting school is such an adjustment for you all. I hope you find out what’s causing it. I hated my boys starting school, it was so emotional and hard not being there to ease their worries, even my 11 year old starting secondary was hard when he told me another boy said he was rubbish at football. With such lovely caring parents I’m sure you’ve raised a little boy who can take on the world, but us mummies will always have their backs! #sharewithme

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  8. Hi Jenny, i am sorry to hear your son is having a tough time. School is a huge adjustment. It is not always easy for them. The ups and downs of the relationships with others can at times be harder than the learning. I hope you find what is upsetting his stomach soon. Kirsten

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    • I hate not having the control over it like I used to because I know what he needs but he is growing up and has to be in the big wide world without mommy sometime so he needs to learn to do it himself. It’s scary but letting him fly and all.

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  9. Oh no I hope B settles down into school soon and you get to the root of the issue.
    It sounds like your whole family have had a bit of a crazy couple of weeks. School is a big change and it can be scary. It just might take a while for him to adjust.
    I’m glad you’ve found a great nursery for MM, it’s so reassuring when you know they have a friend there as well. x

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    • Thank you so much Chloe for your kind words. He is doing a little better each week we are finding better ways for him in terms of allergies and coping with it at school. MM starts today so I am excited to see how it goes.

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  10. Ah, it’s so tough when they start school! Their personalities definitely change a bit. It’s too bad B isn’t feeling well. I understand all of your concerns & would feel exactly the same way. When your child needs some extra attention, it’s important they get it but also you don’t want them to feel different. I hope the new nursery works out wonderful for MM! #ShareWithMe x

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    • Lucky for me my kids like to share and I have now caught the school plague. Hurray! lol The kids are getting back to normal and doing better though that’s the main thing.

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  11. Ahh, this sounds like a tough couple of weeks…so much change for everyone to get their heads around. Sounds like you are being wonderfully discreet for your son, I hope you get to the bottom of what’s bothering his tummy soon. It’s great that it is not bothering his ability to enjoy school though. I think that really shows that however worried and emotional you may feel about it, you are obviously not putting that on to him which is really lovely. And go MM, always good to have some giggly glue around on bad days! #sharewithme

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    • I was really surprised that he kept saying he loved it so much considering but he is alot better health wise and food wise this week and we are finding answers so feeling better about it all. Thank you so much.

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  12. Little MM looks so grown up on her bike! It must be a nightmare trying to police allergy issues for kids once they are in school. I’m sure the adjustment to school is always a big one for all kids, and B will find his feet. Still, always worrying when you can’t be with them. #sharewithme

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    • It really does make her look way older than she is and they are hilarious when they race down the street on them. Looking more like twins each day instead of 2o some months apart. B is doing better this week and we have found some answers.

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  13. Oh there is so much going round – my little one has been off key for weeks now. But with so many changes I guess they are bound to be unsettled too. Hopefully things will balance out soon and in the meantime know that this too shall pass! Growing up is indeed hard to do. x..#sharewithme

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    • I think it takes some till Christmas just to get used to the tiredness, the newness, the environment and new people too. I am hoping it all balances soon for you too.

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  14. Oh dear! I do hope this is just an adjustment period your sweet little boy. My oldest is in a new class this year and also experiencing behavioural changes as he struggles to adjust. Big hugs all around! #ShareWithMe

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    • I hope so too. He seems so much happier this week and we did find he had an infection in his belly so we are all getting over colds and hopefully that will help with it.

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  15. There always seems to be a lot of illness about when the children first go back to school. Starting school is such a big thing too as it can be a huge adjustment for everyone, so it’s often difficult to establish what the issue is. I hope you manage to quickly establish and resolve the problem. I know how worrying it can be. Mine are older now but I haven’t forgotten the traumas! Great that you have found a local nursery for MM – I hope she loves it and settles quickly. #Sharewithme

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    • I was warned and I should have upped my vitamin c when he started it was only a matter of time where he got really sick then MM got it and now I am suffering. Family likes to share germs don’t they? I think we are finding answers for B and he has been better this week. MM starts new nursery this afternoon trial day. Fingers crossed.

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  16. I think itΒ΄s not until you become a mum yourself that you truly appreciate the innate need we have to protect our children. My husband constantly reminds me that my son will just work things out by himself but only a parent understands that you would take all your childrens pain on yourself if it meant they never had to feel an ounce of it. I hope your little man soon settles in and well done to your little girl!!

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  17. Oh bless you! The first term is always the hardest and they are always so tired too. Emotions certainly run rife especially when they’re in reception. I”m sure everything will settle down soon x x x

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    • Oh yes B has never been so tired since he cut his naps out and started school. Funny thing is he complains about being tired but wakes up earlier now in the morning then he ever did. I think by Christmas it will all be settled down and normal for us.

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    • In time it will pass and things will settle down and be a new normal for us all I think. I am now really sick so I think bad bug has plagued us all. Get it all over before Christmas. lol

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  18. Always love reading your letters to your kids. I hope that B gets better soon, and you and your husband sort out his ailments. B is a strong and brave boy, so whatever it is that he may be going through, he’ll get passed it and with flying colors too.

    MM looks so graceful on her bike! She looks like she’s having the time of her life everytime she’s on it.

    Thank you for always sharing these letters with us, Jenny. And for always lending your space to share our thoughts on #sharewithme. Always happy to be a part of it πŸ™‚

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    • She really does love that bike so very much. That’s all she ever wants to do after the school pick up. Glad you like my letters they are my least popular post but my favorite for the kids to look back on someday and read themselves.

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  19. It sounds like there is lots of changes and challenges in your family at the moment. I hope B will be better soon. Allergies are so tricky to detect. There’s so many factors to consider in a new environment.
    MM sounds like a little warrior. You are lucky to have such a brave little girl. I hope she’ll feel better in her new nursery.

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    • This was my fear all along starting school as I have been pretty much the only person beside one other that feeds him and in our home I can control what we eat next to him too. In school I have no control which is scary. MM is a warrior I like that word for her.

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  20. Ahh this is lovely! What a beautiful, honest piece. Really made me think about my little one starting school in a few years time πŸ™‚

    #sharewithme

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  21. It sounds like a time of excitement and anxiousness for you and your family. I hope everything figures itself out soon, like life sometimes has a way of doing. These are such lovely posts, its so nice to get such a real and honest glimpse of your lives. I’ve enjoyed linking up with Share With Me for the first time this week, thanks for hosting #ShareWithMe

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    • Oh I am so glad you enjoyed linking up and glad you found my blog hunny. Welcome. I hope to see you again soon. Yes it’s true I want to document all our lives not just the fluff to have to come back to. Parenting isn’t easy and is the toughest job I have ever done.

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  22. Well that is quite a week, especially for Him. Starting school is a big thing, but I’m sure he’ll settle down soon enough. I also hope Her cold passes quickly. Thanks for hosting #sharewithme

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    • He has been so much better this week and less sick too. Finding some answers now that’s helpful. I have now caught their cold hurray for me. lol They love sharing with mommy.

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  23. The first few weeks back at school can be tough, but health issues on top must be worrying
    Hope it’s just a short-term problem for you all
    #sharewithme

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  24. I love hearing from you about your children. It kind of gives me a feel of what may be in the future. I’m sorry to hear that your son is ill and I hope your daughter enjoys the new nursery. #sharewithme

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    • Ahh glad you like it hunny and to give you a glimpse in our lives. We are getting to the bottom of it now. But MM and I have now caught a nasty bug too. Ugh tis the season.

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  25. They pick up so many illnesses during their first few years at school as they’re exposed to all these new germs. It was like living with a petrie dish, we were all constantly ill. But knowing that doesn’t make things easier and I hope you find a way to manage things..

    The first few weeks of school can be tough as there’s so much to get used to and so many new people. πŸ™ I hope he settles in soon and finds some like minded friends. Sending hugs. And tea. #sharewithme

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    • Thanks I needed that. So true its all things to get used to and we will look back in weeks to come and think its just the normal now. πŸ™‚ Hoping to magically get better so I can take the kids to Chester Zoo tomorrow.

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  26. Sounds like it’s been a tough week for you all. I hope everyone makes a speedy recovery soon. #sharewithme

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  27. I hope that you get to the bottom of B’s problems or it will just sort itself out, it’s so hard for everyone to adjust to a different routine, familiarity etc. I only got food intolerances as an adult so coping with allergies as a child must be hard for the parents and the child but It’s so common these days, people have a bit more understanding. Hope MM has a good time at nursery. xx #sharewithme

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    • We are slowly finding out what’s causing all this on top of a very bag school plague that’s got all our tummies very unhappy including me of course the week I am solo parenting. Typical isn’t it? MM loved her new nursery. Makes it a lot easier knowing she is across the street too.

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  28. Oh gosh what a worrying time for you. As a teacher, I can confirm a comment above about children picking up everything when they first start school (last year, in November, we only had a third of the class present for most of the week!). But I suppose with B’s allergies it’s natural to worry that bit more. I hope you get to the bottom of it. MM looks a whizz on that bike! Our 3 year old boy is just getting the hang of his bike and I love watching him cycling around the park on it! Thanks for hosting #sharewithme – it’s my first time!

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    • Hi Becky welcome to LTM thanks for stopping by and for your lovely comment. It has been tough but we are getting to the bottom of it all. Hopefully. Allergies do make things complex sometimes.

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  29. This is my first time visiting your blog and I love this idea of writing blog posts as “letters” to your children. That is such a sweet idea. I’m hoping your little ones feel better soon. Hopefully, it’s just the new transition that has them feeling down and they’ll back to normal in no time. I know that as adults, when we have a lot going on, it can affect our health so I’m sure it’s the same with children and it will be something that will pass by soon.

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    • Welcome Kiana, glad you like my blog and my letters. Each year, I put them all into a book for my kids to have one day to read back. You never know what could happen to the internet so at least they would have these. πŸ™‚ Hope to see you again soon. Yes I think the transition is huge for them. He is the youngest in his class too.

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  30. I hope you can resolve issues with B soon,. Nothing worse then.knowing your little one is dealing with problems. It is so hard as a parent as all you want to do is protect them X

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