Motherhood is one of the hardest hoods you will ever live in in life, and it’s not one that ever ends. It doesn’t matter whether you are pregnant, brand new with a tiny baby or you have teenagers; motherhood is hard at every stage. It doesn’t mean that it’s not rewarding, but the one thing that most mothers find is that they lose themselves a little when they’re elbow-deep in nappies. You spend your life in a revolving world of exhaustion, so much so, you identify as a parent and a carer before you consider the things that you like that will make you happy.
Being a mother is a gift, but it’s not your only superpower. There were days that you would slip on those Balenciaga shoes and strut your stuff. Well, you can break out those days once again, and when you do, you’ll see how much life will change for you and your family. When you take care of yourself, you instantly become a happier, better person.
The key in Motherhood?
Remembering to take care of yourself. You need to rediscover YOU, not just the you who is covered in Mommy! So, with this in mind, we’ve got a few ways you can remember that you are more than Mom.
Start your day early.
I know, it feels counterproductive given that you are already surviving on little to no sleep. Here’s the thing, though, you need to get up and have some time in the quiet of the house – just you – before the noise and chaos begins. Not only can you get work done, get a workout done, study, fold the laundry – you can feel better for it, too. Having time to yourself is so important as a woman, not just as a mother. You need your time before family time, and you need to get up a little earlier for that!
Choose a way to relax.
Before you suggest it, no, we’re not talking about bubble baths. These are lovely but that’s basic hygiene and hygiene isn’t a *thing* to choose to relax with. You need to take time to read a book away from a screen, take a yoga class or choose a day per week to have lunch with a friend. You could even make a point of a monthly massage. Either way, you need to consider what will relax you the most and go for that.
Ask for help.
Mothers often stay quiet when they need help, believing that they have to cope with everything themselves. It’s not the case. If you are struggling, you need to consider that you need to ask for some help. It’s not weak to ask for help and you are going to be better supported when you do.
Lastly, stop comparing your motherhood journey to others – you will not be happier with life if you compare it to others. Focus on you and focus on your own goals and dreams!