October has already been a tough one and we are only half way through it. I never lie here on Let’s Talk Mommy, normally the kids are the best of friends and super easy to handle together. In the first week of October, something stirred in the oceans or changed with the moon because my sweet, shy daughter became someone I didn’t recognize. That’s for another post but it has made the relationship between my two little pea pods strained. I have one child acting out and another upset that the other is acting out and not being his best friend. It is hard to parent two children differently but they are different so it’s a must. It’s been hard to explain to B why his sister is laying on the floor acting like she is dying and screaming at the top of her lungs when she has always been super quiet and super sweet. The other day, while I was wiping my own tears away, he asked me what I did to her and he wanted his old sister back. I hugged him and cried harder. That’s parenting for you, one day you feel like you are getting this all down easily like supermom and the next one you feel like utter failure and helpless.
So October for us has started out bleak and shocking and in a non-Halloween spooky kind of way. Let’s hope it only ends in the latter with trick-or-treat and not go to your room. The kids are so excited for Halloween this year and I think I am too. The older they get the more they get into costumes and halloween parties and decorating around the house. It’s so fun even if I am the biggest wuss in the world. I won’t even begin to talk about what’s going on in the U.S.A. and clowns right now…completely terrifies me! While I thought the days of matching and coordinating their costumes were over we went yesterday to pick out costumes and they actually picked out a matching set without me even hinting at it. So I guess their best friend status is still intact as long as MM stays vertical.
While MM is struggling with new emotions and how to deal with them as much as I am, there still has been amazing moments between these two this month. We found a new park area to roam around, scoot around and explore. The kids absolutely loved it the other day. MM was having a good day which is what we refer to it as now, sadly. So her and her brother were two peas in a pod and lucky for me I had a quick chance to snap up a few of them being silly, laughing and hugging together. I still can’t believe we were in shorts just a week ago and now I have pulled out the winter coats and scarves. Silly Autumn weather.
It’s amazing how much they have both changes from last month’s siblings. MM has shot right up in height and catching up with her big brother. He can barely stand behind her and see over her without tippy-toeing. I always thought B would be the tall one and MM the small one not because they are girl and boy but that’s just the way the boys are in my family at 6 foot plus and the girls are barely 5 foot like me. Only time will tell but they are looking more and more like each other everyday even if they don’t act like each other. MM still looks up to her big brother for so much support and guidance when they are out playing at the park or at a friend’s party.
For some reason, this month, my two kiddos keep wearing the same clothes. I quickly started noticing it on my instagram at first that whenever we were out doing something or snapping up a few fun captures they were wearing the same outfits. I realized that it’s a little bad parenting when you don’t realize your children are hanging back up the clothes they wore that day and re-wearing them a million times over. Funny they didn’t start to stinky. EEEK! I clearly have been so busy this has gone on far too long. Do your kids have a favorite outfit they always want to wear? I had to stop sharing a few of my favorite photos of them because they are constantly in this dress for MM and between this sweater or B’s grey sweater in every shot this week. Made me laugh once I realized what was going on though. I knew I had done less washing this past week. hahaha So maybe not bad parenting after all just smart parenting and saving time.
TOGETHER THEY ARE LOVING:
A new park area we found recently.
Scooting races on their new scooters.
Lego challenges. (all about friendly competition here now).
Being silly together and saying silly things they shouldn’t.
Crumpets. (never liked them now that is all they want to eat).
Hahahahaha. We definitely have favourite outfits in this house too, and it’s not so much that I never wash them, just that as soon as they’re clean again the kids have them back on.
I know you’ve been struggling a bit with MM this month, just wanted to send hugs and remind you that it won’t last forever. x
Thanks lovely, we have actually turned a corner this weekend and I got my sweet little girl back so far. It’s been a pleasant few days. I am sure here and there we are going to weave in and out of that scary phase again but glad to have her laughing and cuddling again. Oh yes, I do actually wash my kids clothes (sometimes) but it’s hilarious everytime I turn around lately to take a photo they are in the same ones. OOOps. lol Thanks for your love and support Lucy!
Laura - dear bear and beany says
I’m sorry to hear that you’ve had a tough start to the month. I think its harder when your child changes like that, it comes from no where and can catch you by surprise and you are constantly on the back foot trying to get your head around this new behaviour and how to handle it. I hope it settles down soon for you. That did make me laugh that they have been putting their clothes back to wear again, they are sneaky 🙂 x
Kids are the sneakiest people ever! I couldn’t believe it. I clearly need to pay more attention. Yes it’s been tough but everyone has been really supportive teaching me to stay calm and deal with it in other ways. It’s so hard to watch someone you love act crazy for no reason out of nowhere. If she was a tough two year old I would have expected it or prepared but she has always been so shy and quiet it was mind blowing. She seems to be herself more this week. But it could come back so I am not jinx it here. Thank you for your kind words.
The Reading Residence says
Oh dear, it’s so hard when they hit different stages like this. My two are both so different to one another so I definitely have to parent them both in different ways sometimes. Glad that they’re still having fun together and how sweet that they’re both all about crumpets now!
I know go figure it takes me 3 and 5 years to give them a crumpet something I have never really ate myself until now. Wish I hadn’t they are delicious. lol Yes, definitely hard but so far this weekend and start of the week has been so much better. I know it will come again and we will have to just get through it, again. That’s phases for you. lol Thanks lovely.
Laura @ LittleLadiesBigWorld says
Sorry you have had a bit of a tricky month. It’d that age old ‘it’s a stage’ thing but i am sure she will come out of it soon and I agree, parenting differently is so hard but so necessary too. Here’s to a fabulous (and none scary!) Halloween x
Thanks lovely yes hoping halloween goes smoothly without fault or scares on my part. lol Oh yes definitely hard to do so necessarily. I am sure I will look back and laugh ( a little) at her behavior. This week she has been herself though and it’s nice to have her back for now.
Although it’s been a tough month they still look the best of friends. Like everything else, I tell myself ‘it’s just a phase’ and hope for it to pass quickly. I hope your lovely little girl has her emotions all in a row sooner rather than later! x
Yes, I was hoping and praying on the hope it passes quickly. Not saying we are far from over but this weekend she was herself again and it was so good to start the week with her back smiling and happy again. Fingers crossed it doesn’t come out of her too much. 😉 hahaha They still are thick as thieves even with her emotions all over so true. Thanks lovely.
Firstly, i just wanted to say how BEAUTIFUL your children are. Also, i am sending you all the love. We went through very similar with Elle but hers was when her sister was born. She went from being the shyest and sweetest girl to hitting and biting and throwing herself all over the place but soon reverted back to her former self after a few months. There were many tears from both of us and i know it was only an adjustment issue but i know the feeling of your child just changing in front of your eyes and feeling like you have failed. You HAVEN’T. You are wonderful and such an amazing mama x
Thanks KA so very much that means a lot to me not that you have had to experience but that you shared with me and I know I am not alone. It is a scary thing to see your child changing in front of you, before your very eyes. But she turned a corner this weekend and we have her smiling again Hoping the phase is either passing us quickly or it doesn’t come out very often. It’s hard for them to express emotions at this age but hard for me not to express them too.
Lisa (mummascribbles) says
Oh lovely- it is so hard when they change overnight isn’t it? You’re like, what the heck happened?! I hope it settles down soon though. We’ve been having trouble with Zach since just before Oscar came along and I’ve been in tears more times than I can count. Parenting is hard work! Gorgeous photos 🙂 #siblingsproject
Thanks lovely, they had a good few moments here at the park together. It has been tough I am there with you. It’s hard for her to express her emotions correctly. We have been having a lovely time with her though this weekend and she seem to turn a corner again for the better. Fingers crossed we don’t have to relive those 10 days again. UGH. I am sure there will another phase that will come that’s just as hard. Roll on the phases of a child. hahaha
I remember thinking how can people say the terrible twos and not mention the threenager three?! I think 3 was worse than 2, especially for my daughter. But it does get better and hopefully it’s just a short phase. Beautiful photos. I definitely see a change in MM over the last few months. She’s getting taller!
She is super tall all the sudden I know I can’t believe it. I agree, why does no one talk about the threenager stage. I had no terrible twos ever with either of mine. But 4 for my son was horrible and 3 for MM doesn’t seem to be any better. Their emotions seem to get the better of them both sometimes in different ways. Learning how each needs to be parented differently is a challenge sometimes. lol Let’s hope 4 is smooth sailing then right?
Katy (What Katy Said) says
Oh Jenny I’m sorry you’ve had a tough month with MM so far, hopefully it’ll be a quick phase. Big hugs. xx #Siblingsproject
I don’t like to jinx anything but she turned a corner and seems to be back to her old sweet self this weekend. We started the week happier and easier this week which I was so relieved. Worse 10 days ever but I can see she is trying to learning how to control her emotions and express herself better. Hoping this is the upside to her phase may it not last long. lol Thanks lovely for your kind comments.
Fi Ni Neachtain says
Your little ones are beautiful and they look so alike. I’m so sorry that you’re having to deal with a ‘threenager stage’, we had this during the summer and it was one of that hardest parts of parenting I’ve ever had to deal with. I was crying on the phone to my mam because of it all, but thankfully he grew out of it and is so well behaved (well mostly!) these days so please do know it’s just a phase. Have a great Halloween with them 🙂 #SiblingsProject
It is really good to know these are phases even if in the moment we HATE hearing this is just a phase. But it passes us and hopefully if we stuck to our guts and discipline they do turn out to be well behaved (for the most part) little people. Thank you so much for your encouraging words and lovely comment. Happy Halloween to you all too.
Caro | The Twinkle Diaries says
I’ve finally posted my Siblings post and gave you a mention!! As I said to you last week, we’ve been having similar trials and tribulations. Pretty awful to deal with — I’ve felt wrung out!!! Fingers crossed it will pass — it literally started at the beginning of October. Hopefully it will be gone by next week when November arrives!!!! #Siblings
Thank you so much for the mention babes so kind of you. That’s the beauty of blogging we can share these parenting struggles as we go through them knowing we aren’t alone and how to deal with it when it hits us. So far, it’s been back to normal here and I hope it stays that way for as long as possible. Threenager stage scares me.